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The Most Important Skill You Can Learn: Making the Ask

Humans are naturally wired to fear being a social outcast – living in groups kept us safe for thousands of years.

That fear of rejection is still present for most of us, no matter how well liked we are.

If we don’t “make the ask” by reaching out to someone new in the music world, whether it’s to book a show or ask a potential new fan to listen to our music, we miss out on countless opportunities.

Overcoming the fear of rejection takes time, practice, and patience. Don’t get me wrong, it can be nerve-wracking. It’s something that every successful artist has to do.

In this episode I explain how you can defeat your fear of rejection and why it's important. Listen now to learn more!

What you’ll learn:

  • One of the most useful skills in the music industry
  • Overcoming your fear of making the ask
  • Why artists who go for the long shot are more successful
  • Approaching industry insiders
  • How to make a good first impression
  • Why you should make the ask even if it seems like a definite “no”
  • Growing your network to gain new friends and opportunities
  • Being fearless and getting amazing results
  • Practice makes perfect – ask and ask again!

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